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Todd Baratz
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I’m Todd Baratz.

I’m a certified sex therapist, licensed individual and couples psychotherapist, and writer who specializes in relationships and sex.  

I help people improve their relationships and have better sex.

 
 
 

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 O N L I N E P R O G R A M S

GROW AT YOUR OWN PACE

Learn + connect in community through my unique online therapy programs.

Reach new levels of self-knowledge and work through your blocks around sex, love, and relationships from the comfort of your own home.

 

N E W S L E T T E R

Your Monthly
Diagnonsense

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  • Monthly goals

  • Journal prompts

  • A closer look at popular posts

  • Insights from my online program

  • Voice notes

  • And more!

 
 
 

SEXUALITY IS THE MOTHERBOARD OF YOUR DESIRES AND FEARS.

Sex therapy is about much more than genitals or orgasms. Sex and desire are often an expression of self-worth; becoming sexual requires confidence and self-empowerment. In doing so we confront risk, vulnerability, and authentic self-expression. 

Sex therapy goes beyond better sex, it connects us to our humanity. When we better understand our sexual selves, we understand the multilayered complexities of our lives: trauma and joy, pain and pleasure, love and hate. 

 
 
 
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My Podcast

Your Diagnonsense is a podcast about relationships, sex, and all the other nonsense that accompanies the human condition. Listen to interviews with guests ranging from experts to burlesque dancers.

New episode every Monday.

 
 

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Remember the goal isn’t perfection. ⁣ You can’t do these thing 24/7 365. ⁣ Allow for those imperfections. ⁣ Allow for humanity. ⁣ Understand that everyone will struggle at some point to be consistent. ⁣ And everyone is learning. ⁣
You have to be your own advocate. ⁣ Stop waiting for other people to give you permission to be heard, seen, or understood. ⁣ Speak up. ⁣ Prompt. ⁣ Ask. Demand if necessary.⁣ Stop blaming other people for not coming through for you on something you&rs
Use attachment theory as if it were one ingredient in your attempts to cook an entire meal. ⁣ ⁣ It’s not the holy grail IG makes it out to be. I promise. ⁣ ⁣ Unless you’re talking about actual attachment relationships between parent-child
There are a lot of reasons why you might avoid sex. All of which can be worked through. If you want to. Don’t depriotize sex. And remember - when I say SEX I mean anything sexual. NOT penetration.
No more ghosting pweeze. It's a missed opportunity all around.
Understand that in our adult relationships, love and abuse are not compatible. We do not abuse the people we love. Nor would I encourage anyone to work on communication or taking responsibility for their role in a dynamic when abuse is present.
Its harder not to do these things. ⁣ Trust me. ⁣ Check in. ⁣ Talk. ⁣ Share yourselves. ⁣ Do nice things for each other. ⁣ Say nice things daily - at least once - plz! Have sex. ⁣ Hold each other. ⁣ Kiss. ⁣ Do all the things.
Avoiding is making your anxiety worse. I promise. ⁣ ⁣ Its much harder work to prolong doing something out of fear than to do it. Each day you sit in avoidance the fear doesn't go away. It gets worse and often turns into a much larger metaphor for you
Accept it. Tolerate it. And simply do your best to move on.
Have a thing. A fun sexual routine. But don't stress; compatible doesn't mean the same exact. It involves managing difference openly and honestly in a way that isn't full on threatening. Remember its sex. Not a funeral. ⁣have funnnnn! ⁣ Notice the an
Feel something.
Every singular person. ⁣ At some point. ⁣ We all do.⁣ No one is immune. ⁣ Bc we are human.⁣ Bc we live in cultures founded upon toxic values.⁣ Bc we are afraid of being alone.⁣ Bc we want to be loved so desperately.⁣ Bc we want to protect ourselves.